Emotions

Kinky interactions can produce a variety of emotions. Not all are positive in the moment, but managed properly all should be positive to the relationship. Arousal is a primary emotion for most sexuality, but may be secondary or non-existent in kinky play. All emotions are valid during play, if you don't feel how you expect to feel, talk about it.

What are kinky emotions?

Pride
Fear
Embarrassment
Pleasure
Arousal
Vulnerability

'Negative' emotions can be handled through being supportive during the session. Sometimes a session might need to stop to allow time to discuss emotions. In some rare occasions the 'negative' feeling is the desired reaction and should be encouraged as long as it is not causing an unsafe level of stress.

There are a range of positive emotions as well, not necessarily connected to arousal or happiness, but rather a state of being content with the experience, feelings of accomplishment for handling the situation, cravings for an extension to the current status or pride in executing a task.

Discomfort

Being nervous, anxious or scared to begin a session is pretty normal, especially if it isn't something you have tried before. Talk to your partner and work through the feelings together. If uncomfortable emotions pop up during a session, you can stop or pause the session using the warning or stop words. Trying to play through the discomfort, especially if it occurs for more than a few minutes is not likely to result in a fun session.

Quiz

Can you name other emotions that might be associated with the topics covered in this course?
What are two possible ways that fear could be handled during play?
What are your boundaries for emotions during play?

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